Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Every Mom's Decision: Regret vs. Guilt

To breastfeed or not....that is the question!!!!  First, for those of you who chose or were unable to breastfeed, I am not saying that you should have felt regret or guilt!  .

My question is ARE THERE REALLY ONLY TWO OPTIONS: BREAST OR FORMULA???  When your baby will not awaken to eat in the hospital....when s/he is born with a condition that prevents you from offering the breast, when your little one won't latch, when you develop mastitis.....are those really your only options?  What if the nursery nurse offered you a pump?  I borrowed the text below from another website. 

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Exclusively Pumping Breast Milk: Why Women Do It


Exclusively pumping breast milk is best thought of as an alternative to formula feeding. While there are some women who decide to exclusively pump even before their babies are born, they are by far the minority. Instead, most women who exclusively pump fully intended to breastfeed and believe strongly in the benefit and value of breast milk. When confronted with difficulties or situations that make breastfeeding difficult or impossible, these women turn to the use of a breast pump to ensure their babies receive breast milk.

The reasons women exclusively pump are extremely varied: the premature birth of a baby; the illness of the baby or the mother; problems with breastfeeding including such things as a poor latch, thrush, cleft palate, poor weight gain, a lack of milk (either real or perceived), and the early introduction of a bottle leading to nipple preference; and the separation of mother and baby including women who must return to work soon after the birth of their babies. It is difficult to briefly discuss the many reasons women exclusively pump, but there do tend to be some similarities in most women's experiences.

Self-preservation is an often mentioned factor in the decision to exclusively pump. New mothers are overwhelmed with emotions. Hearing your baby scream every time you try to nurse, enduring extreme pain when nursing, or having a baby who is unable to get enough milk to satisfy her can add to an already tumultuous period. Also, for women who are breastfeeding, bottle feeding to top up the baby's intake, and then pumping to maintain or increase supply while the baby learns to breastfeed or the mother is able to resolve difficulties she is experiencing, the cycle becomes overwhelming and, even with a strong support network, can make it extremely difficult to continue for very long.

Often a mother is not able to truly focus on mothering and enjoying her new baby, and instead, is solely focused on providing nourishment. Life becomes consumed with feeding the baby, which can, in and of itself, add additional stress to the situation making breastfeeding all that more challenging. The decision to exclusively pump can, for some women, bring back a balance in their lives and in their household and enable them to refocus on their babies while continuing to feed their babies breast milk.
The decision to exclusively pump is not made lightly.

The vast majority of women who decide to exclusively pump do work with lactation consultants before making their decision. And although pumping and bottle feeding becomes the primary method of feeding, many women also continue to work on breastfeeding and solving problems that were making it difficult to breastfeed.

Yet, even though the hope of exclusive breastfeeding may still remain when a woman starts to pump, many women do get to a point where they no longer attempt to breastfeed. Many struggle with the emotions they feel as a result of not breastfeeding and not having the breastfeeding relationship they thought they would have with their baby. For many, the strong emotions felt when they do not see success breastfeeding are too difficult to continue reliving over and over again. The disappointment and frustration often prove to be difficult to cope with on a continuing basis and as a result the decision to exclusively pump is made. Working with a lactation consultant during these first few weeks of pumping is extremely important if a transition to exclusive breastfeeding is desired and an important time for lactation consultants to maintain close contact with women in order to assist them to breastfeed successfully.

Perhaps the strongest motivating factor for exclusively pumping is the strong belief that breast milk is the best way of nourishing a baby. Most women who exclusively pump do not feel that formula is an option; it is something they would prefer not to feed their babies. Therefore, when they are confronted with difficulties breastfeeding (or the inability to breastfeed), and are unable to resolve the situation, they turn to what is often in their minds, the only option available to them. If the women who exlusively pump did not have this as an option, their babies would most likely be switched to formula.
Exclusively pumping is a viable alternative to formula feeding. Knowledge is key, however. A breast pump will not initiate or maintain a milk supply in the same manner as a baby. Women who have been able to exclusively pump long-term tend to follow a similar set of guidelines. Support and accurate information are extremehly important indicators of success for women who are exclusively pumping.
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There is plenty of information out there on this.  Post a comment if you would like more information.

Friday, June 24, 2011

Snot, I am no sucker










                                                   




Ok, I heard about this little device months ago when a mom on facebook posted a comment about how disgusting it is.  At that time I agreed.  Fast forward a few months, and I have a  7 week old with a very bad cold.  I bought a humidifier, vicks plug in (can't use the rub on newborns), and nasal saline.

My first realization was that the nasal aspirator I purchased from my registry was useless.  I am sure every mother before me has learned that only the hospital supplied aspirator works...good thing I still had mine.  The saline really helped at thinning the secretions, but Emory got angry every time I suctioned her.  Because she was so miserable, I decided to read some about this aspirator made in Sweden.  The following is from the manufacturers website (FAQs):

Will I get the cold my baby has?
No. The hygiene filter prevents mucus transfer from child to user

Is Nosefrida safe to use on newborns?
Yes. Nosefrida is designed to be safe and effective for newborns as well as toddlers.

Why is Nosefrida better than other aspirators on the market?
Nosefrida is better and safer, since you never put anything inside the nose, and you control the amount of suction you apply. It does not irritate the sensitive lining of the

How do I clean my Nosefrida?
Nosefrida should be detached from the tubing and washed with warm water and soap and allowed to dry. Hygiene filters should be changed after each use.

I took the tube apart for washing, and now it won't stay attached.
The tube has to be pushed very hard until you hear it snap into place. There is a groove inside that makes the 2 pieces fit together snugly.

I know my child has mucus but nothing comes out. How do I get the really thick stuff out?
First, try 1 - 2 saline drops in each nostril, wait for a few seconds and then aspirate. Try using the Nosefrida in a CIRCULAR motion against the nostril. You will hear some sounds when the mucus starts to come out.









My experience with the Nosefrida:
EWWW, yes I tried it.  As you know I am a mother who squirts hand sanitizer into the hands of anyone who looks at my child.  So you should be as surprised as I am that I gave this little device a try.  I actually love it!  The mucus stayed at the end of the tube and never even reached the tip of the filter.  In summary, if you can get past the "Ick Factor", you will love this device...and so will your little one!

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Welcome Baby Emory

Well you know a Type A must plan everything.  I decided early in my pregnancy that I needed to plan everything and be in total control.  I wanted to know the time and date and control as many variables as possible.  I mean honestly, what would I do if my water broke on rounds.  It didn't lessen my anxiety that the physicians I work with all made jokes about which unqualified MD would deliver me.  Would it be an intensivist on rounds, an interventional cardiologist who boasts at having delivered 12 babies before, a cardiologist who has delivered 2 babies, and the list goes on.  I WANTED A PLANNED C-SECTION.

When I presented my plan to my OB, she was less than thrillled but agreed to do what I wanted.  Somewhere along the way I changed my mind.  I have no idea why, but still wanting to be in control I convinced my OB to induce me at 39 weeks.

At 38 weeks I planned to have my baby.  My OB was on call, and hey it was a baby girl so her lungs should be fine...she was fully cooked.  I tried every old tale you have heard of. I will spare you the details, but if you have heard of it I tried it.  The only thing I didn't do was take my new car over a ton of speed bumps.  Did I mention that my wonderful husband had me riding around on trash bags in that new car for a month prior to delivery?

Induction was scheduled for 4/20/11, and I planned 4/18/11 to be my last day at work.  Well Emory made the first of what would be many loud declarations that she would be calling the shots.  My water broke at 4 am (45 minutes before I would have gotten up to get ready for work.) Since contractions did not begin we loaded the car (of course I was packed....I had been for over a month), straightened the house (of course I had cleaned already, I am type A), and loaded the dishwasher before we left. 

We arrived at the hospital at 6 am.  I changed and IV fluids were started.  I was dilated to 4-5.  After a liter or two of fluids I had my epidural.  It was so much better than I imagined....not too scary at all.  Six hours after I arrived Emory was born at 12:32 pm.  A benefit of working at the hospital you deliver at is the special attention you receive.  Emory came out loudily announcing her arrival.  This child had APGARs of 10/10 and screamed until they put her in my arms!  Back to special attention...I got to keep her in recovery with me for about 2-3 hours before she went to the nursery.  By 4 pm I was in my own room, in regular clothes, and digging through my suitcase when my first visitor arrived.

Emory's arrival was nothing like the screaming women on TV. It was amazing and lightening fast compareed to most first time births.

                                                          So I went from this

                                                         to holding this sweet face

                                                Photos by Brooke Kelly Photography







The Story of Us

You can learn a little about me by reading my profile, so let me tell you about my fabulous husband and our story.

After a few years of spreading his wings (about 5) Jason returned to college on a baseball scholarship.  I met him through his roommate (who was from my small hometown) and some of my teammates (I played soccer.)  We started dating within weeks of school beginning, and it wasn't long before I realized there was something special about this goofy boy.  Everyone loved "JY", and to this day I have never met anyone with anything bad to say about him.  I have never met anyone who did not like him.  He has the smoothest type B personality ever. 

We dated through undergrad and continued to date when he went to TN Tech Univ to pursue an engineering degree, and I moved to Memphis for pharmacy school.  Neither of us were looking for what we found in one another.

In May 2007 he proposed in Destin Fl with our best friends there on vacation.  After seven years of dating, I married the man of my dreams.  We married in June 2008. Since the first day I met him, he has had me laughing.  He has taught me to find the humor in all things and makes my days better.  Simply put Jason makes my life better...makes it easier.

We may have thought we found the love of our lives when we met one another, but in April of this year we welcomed baby Emory.  I am pretty sure she stole our hearts!

                                           From our balcony in our condo in Destin


                         The moment he proposed.  Thank you Jennifer Twilla for the picture!


Our wedding picture courtesty of Doug and Arlene at Ace Photography